The Friday Five (LJ)

1. If you could change one life-changing event in the life of someone important to you, would you?

Clearly, it would depend on if the event was good or bad. If my dad won the lottery for a large amount of money, that would be a very positive life-changing event that I probably wouldn’t change for the wold. :wink: On the other hand, if I had the ability to change or cure my mom’s illness, I wouldn’t hesitate. (That is apart of the reason why I am going to donate my kidney to her, if all goes well with the tests.)

2. Which do you think is easier to do, being friends for many years, or being life partners for many years?

Being friends for many years is much easier. Being life partners, or being involved in any kind of long-term relationship with a significant other, is difficult after the first few “honeymoon” months, the period when everything is hugs and kisses, chocolate and flowers, rainbows and sunshine… haha!! :wink: After that time, you get to see the true colours of the person you are with, which can be hard to handle and heartbreaking.

3. Have you ever walked away from someone you considered a friend?

Yes. I am not going to give away whether the person in question is a guy or a girl, so I am going to intentionally refer to the person as he/she, his/her, etc.

Basically, this person forgot that I existed and moved on to associate with people he/she thought were his/her “good” friends when they were far from fitting that description. This person bitched to me one time about things his/her new “friends” did to him/her, how they were two-faced and such. Hearing that hurt me because I know that I am a better friend than those people are, and I can’t figure out why he/she would want to devote his/her interest and time to them and not me. I was under the impression that we were close friends; however, I saw how quickly that person didn’t care enough about our friendship to give me a call or send me an email every so often, and have pretty much given up on contacting that person. Moreover, I don’t recall ever doing anything that would turn her off, and she has never mentioned anything about why she doesn’t contact me anymore, so I can only assume is that she is rude and doesn’t care about having a good friendship.

4. If you had to choose between telling the truth and hurting a friend or lying and making them happy, which would you choose?

I would like to say that “honesty is the best policy,” but there are certain situations where lying would be better than telling the completely raw and honest truth. For instance, if one of my female friends was wearing a shirt that did not look too good on her, I would as kindly as possible tell her that the shirt was not flattering. If I knew that a lot of people were making fun of her for wearing the shirt and calling her very nasty names, I would tell her that people were making comments; however, I wouldn’t tell her word-for-word what the comments were.

5. Which would you rather hear–the truth which will hurt, or the comforting lie?

It would really depend on the situation. If it was a situation like I described above, I frankly wouldn’t want to know the nitty-gritty details and completely raw, uncensored comments that people were making about me; I would want it sugar coated just a little bit.

The Friday Five